I once heard a story about a man who went to visit a friend. While chatting outside with his friend, the man noticed a dog laying on the porch. Every once in awhile, the dog would let out a painful whine. After a few minutes, the man remarked, “I can’t help but notice that something seems to be wrong with your dog.”
“Yes,” replied the friend, “He’s probably laying on a nail.”
“Well, why doesn’t he just get up and move?” questioned the man.
“I guess it doesn’t hurt bad enough!” replied the friend.
Some days are just hard, aren’t they? For some, these hard days stretch into weeks, months, and even years. Although we try to put our best foot forward, sometimes life feels like it’s pulling us down. Do you ever find yourself promising that someday you’re going to doing something about it, but right now is just not a good time to change your life? It’s much like the dog in pain. It hurts. You complain. But, it just doesn’t hurt bad enough to do something about it.
Perhaps you are more attached to your suffering than you care to admit. The payoff from your suffering (i.e. attention or sympathy from others) might be greater than the investment of time and effort required to find the remedy for it.
Maybe you are truly ready, but you simply don’t possess the knowledge or skills required to turn these quickly spiraling, out-of-control energies around. Stress at work, the demands of children and tight schedules, a strained relationship with a spouse or other family member, unhealthy eating habits and seemingly no time to exercise, or never-ending financial struggles can leave us feeling like we have nothing left to give and no where to turn.
This is where we can find ourselves on dangerous ground, yielding to the negative thoughts these challenges produce that will do nothing to improve our situation and only seem to dig even deeper this pit of despair in which we have found ourselves.
So we blame, we complain, and we justify our poor choices, but recognize that, in doing so, we give up the very power that can change our day, our circumstances, even our life into something even better. This is where I can help.
My life hasn’t always been happy. I haven’t always been the optimist that I am now. Throughout my life, especially in my earlier years, I experienced depression, adversity, loss, heartache, disappointment, financial lack, health issues and numerous other trials and challenges, along with the usual day to day struggles–just like most any other person on this planet. I’m quite certain I am not special in this regard.
Where I might differ from some is that, by the grace of God, I have learned that these very experiences have given me a rich, new understanding that has completely changed my perspective, even allowing me to embrace the challenges and trials of life, appreciating every moment, and choosing to respond in better, more empowering ways.
Does that seem unrealistic to you? Does that sound too difficult right now? You might be saying, “Yeah, well, you haven’t walked in my shoes . . . you don’t know how I feel . . . I’ve tried and it just doesn’t work.” You’re right, I don’t know how you feel, but I know how I felt when I was in that kind of despair. Escaping those prisons of thought have freed me from the barriers to happiness that they produce. You can learn the truth and gain the skills to change that kind of thinking. Throughout this website, I share those truths with you. “Then you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.” (John 8:32)
One of those truths is that the purpose of life is to experience opposition in order to grow and progress. And, with the right perspective and tools, this can be a rewarding and promising time in your life. At 26 years old, I had my first “light-bulb” moment and for over 20 years I have gleaned many truths, principles, tools, and techniques from many sources. It’s taken years to learn these truths. So, be patient with yourself. This is not a race, it’s a journey. Take a few minutes right now to determine where you want to end up when your journey is through. Only you can decide your future. No one can or will do it for you, and no one can take that privilege from you.
The first step to changing your life is to develop the desire to create something different for yourself. Then, you have to show up! Decide that today is the right time to change your life. Keep coming back and you will learn, step by step, how every day, in every way, your life can get better and better.
Line upon line, precept upon precept.
Here a little and there a little.
One step at a time, one day at a time. That’s how you and I are going to get there.
We generally change ourselves for one of two reasons: inspiration or desperation. ~ Jim Rohn
Whether you are desperate or just ready for change, I hope you’re now feeling inspired to join me on this journey to find happiness, peace, and joy in your life!